Originally written in 2013. Updated in 2025.
How do we find peace when life wears us thin, when people disappoint us, or when our circumstances don’t seem fair? It’s not always easy—but peace is still possible. Not because the world gets quieter, but because God gets louder.
Negative people, situations, and comments are inevitable—but if we’re prepared, I believe peace is still possible, even in the midst of it. The Bible acknowledges this reality. In Romans 12:18, Paul writes:
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Even Paul understood that peace with others isn’t always within our control. But he adds an important caveat: as far as it depends on you. That part? That’s where we have a say. Whether or not you walk away from a tough conversation or situation in peace does depend on you.
One powerful way to lean into that kind of peace is by following Jesus’ command to treat others as you’d want to be treated—even when it’s hard. The Golden Rule isn’t just about kindness; it’s a mindset that can defuse tension, lower your stress, and keep peace from slipping through your fingers.
Be Ready, Not Reactive
So how do you prepare to live with peace in a world that’s not always peaceful?
Start by acknowledging the truth: you will encounter negativity. Don’t dwell on it or expect it around every corner—but don’t be surprised when it shows up either. Being aware is the first step.
It took me years to learn this. I spent far too much time and energy trying to win over critics or avoid conflict. But here’s what I’ve realized—and what I hope frees you up:
No matter who you are, someone will not like you.
You could be Mother Teresa herself, and someone would find a reason to criticize. Trying to please everyone is a losing battle, and it will steal your peace every time
A Word from My Dad
My dad, who was full of old-school wisdom and an unbelievable mental strength, used to have a saying that always cracked me up—but it also stuck with me in the best way.
It’s not exactly a line from Christian theology, but it had a way of reinforcing what I was learning about walking in peace.
When someone was being negative or difficult in his life, he’d say to me:
“I’m not married to them, I don’t have to sleep next to them, and we don’t have Christmas dinner together.”
That line still makes me smile, and even though he’s gone now, his words continue to guide me. Translation? Let it go.
You don’t have to carry every negative person’s opinion with you. If someone doesn’t respond to your kindness or your best effort—move on. Don’t hand them your peace. My dad had a way of cutting through the noise, and even now, that simple philosophy helps me reset my focus and remember what (and Who) really matters.
Real Peace, Real Source
I’m not exactly new in the faith anymore, but I’m always growing. And one thing I’ve learned is this: true peace isn’t something we create—it’s something we receive.
Did you know that depending on the translation, “peace” is mentioned over 300 times in the Bible?
One of the verses that continues to steady me is Philippians 4:7:
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
That verse reminds me that God offers peace I can’t even explain. It’s not based on whether people like me or how calm my circumstances are. It’s found in trusting that God is in control, even when life doesn’t make sense.
Peace isn’t the absence of problems. It’s the presence of God in the middle of them.
That’s what makes it different. That’s what makes it real.
For more biblical resources on finding peace in life, visit Focus on The Family’s Finding Peace in Your Everyday Life.
Your Turn
What do you do to find peace in your life?
Drop a comment below—I’d love to hear what’s worked in your home, your heart, and your walk with God.
I can relate to what you are saying. I have spent a lot of time in my life trying to please people which does not always turn out well. I have finally realized that the only one I really need to please is God and that will always turn out well. Knowing that gives me peace.
I agree 100% HE will guard your heart and mind!